Courage In My Too Much: Over-Sharing

Have you seen the (I think) new Taco Bell commercial? It is for a personal nacho thing. I think. Honestly, I have no idea, it doesn’t really matter. All I know is I love the commercial. It is a guy talking about how tired he is of sharing. We grow up being told to share: you share the sink when brushing your teeth, you share your toys. And now, you share your feelings, baby pictures on social media, selfies, the road… I laugh every time I see it. Probably because I am that over-sharer. And a mom that reminds my littles to share, to be a team, every.single.moment.

But do we? Do we over-share? Am I guilty of too much? Of sharing too much. OfΒ being too much.


I already admitted that I am an over-sharer. I love sharing pictures of my littles, tales of their antics. I love to share life; the funny parts, the messy parts, and the grace-filled beautiful parts. I love to share my home (you can read more about my heart for my home, here), to share my time, to share a meal. I love giving gifts. Okay, that’s giving, not sharing, but giving is kind of like sharing…right?

I am also terrible at sharing. I don’t like sharing my food. My desserts. My candy. Wait. That’s all food related. Okay. I’m also terrible at sharing “my stuff.”

So maybe I’m somewhere in the middle. I’m probably being too generous with that statement. I over-share in some regards and in others, I am still learning what it means to extend myself. To truly share.

Is that okay? Is it okay to over-share, in any regard? Is there harm in it? Honestly. Can any of my over-sharing be harming people in my community. Can it be harming relationships? Is this too much, impacting those I care about in a negative way?

I don’t think it is. And here’s why. I think when we share, with an honest and vulnerable heart, we are truly opening ourselves up to one another. We are sharing in this life. In the beauty and the grace. In the mess and the pain. And through it all, we are sharing: “Me too. You’re not alone.” We are reminding each other that we cannot compare our lives to one another’s. We are encouraging each other, urging us to continue in the hard work (read more about hard work/heart work here and here). And reminding us of the promise of His glory.

When we share our life. When we trulyΒ share it: the good, the beautiful, the blessing, the grace mixed together with the mess, the painful, the ugly, the hard we are attesting to more. We are showing Him. Our Heavenly Father. We are testifying to His glory. We are proclaiming His love.

When we share the reality of life: messy, raw, and beautiful; we admit that we cannot do it all. That we are not enough. But we point to the One who is.

Are you an over-sharer? Do you over-share in an honest and vulnerable way? I would love to hear your thoughts.

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16 thoughts on “Courage In My Too Much: Over-Sharing

  1. Gah!! This is so good, and so relevant to me right now…. I constantly have questions and doubts swirling in my head regarding sharing too much. I’m always second guessing myself….when it comes to writing, when it comes to simple Instagram posts….all of it. The ‘should I’s?’ and ‘shouldn’t I’s?’ are always there….. It’s a real struggle. Thanks for bringing this topic to light today. It’s nice to know others feel similarly.

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  2. I am an oversharer. Hands down. And you know what – I don’t care. I do it in a respectful way to those who probably don’t want me throwing pictures of my kid all the time. That’s what I started my blog! I share my pictures in spaces where people who want to can follow me and I don’t bombard my personal FB wall with my pics – because in about 10 minutes you’ll see my beautiful Lego house I made today.

    I wish I was more vulnerable with my blogging though, I hold back to be warm and fuzzy and really life isn’t always warm and fuzzy, right?

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    • Totally understand that, Jen! I battle with showing just the warm and fuzzy, beautiful parts of life with littles. So I try to intentionally share snippets of the hard. I don’t want to be negative in my social media or life, in general. But I strive to always show that life isn’t always perfect. But it is always filled with grace. Love the way you blog, the pictures and life you share!

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  3. I must say I am a sharer and I don’t feel that you could share too much. By sharing, we can save the world. My family are always telling me, I don’t want to read this in your blog. uhoh, so they may think I share too much.

    Thanks for you amazing post.

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  4. I absolutely love this! I love when people over-share with me (I mean, I am a counselor, so that’s not surprising). I love seeing God’s grace in others’ stories. And I love sharing openly & vulnerably with the right people, too. Thanks for being one of those people in my life πŸ™‚

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  5. I am not sure if I am a oversharer. I am very selective on what I say or post. Maybe because I would feel guilty if I do. But when it comes to what God has done in my life I do share, Iam open and raw! Thanks for sharing!
    Xoxox
    Gema from belovedgems.org

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  6. I love the heart behind this post! I am right there with you…I think vulnerability is what connects us and reminds us that ultimately, we’re not all that different and we’re not alone. All of my favorite blogs are ones where I feel like I am getting to know the real person behind the text and pretty pictures. They remind me I’m not alone in my struggles, my fears, and my doubts, and I need to be reminded of that sometimes! Thanks for sharing!

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