“Give me wisdom and knowledge to go out and come in before this people,
for who can govern this people of Yours, which is so grand?”
Oh to walk into this great task, this grand adventure of parenting and to ask for wisdom and knowledge is jaw dropping. Okay, so technically this quote was from King Solomon (2 Chronicles 1:10). And he wasn’t speaking of his children or of parenting, but rather of leading a nation. But there are some things that are true to both parenting and leading a nation. Right? I mean, really, they are both leading a group of people, a sometimes unwilling group of people. A group of people that you don’t always understand. They both require much of you and they both place much responsibility on you.
To ask for wisdom at the start of
leading parenting makes me pause. I think back to my first pregnancy. My first little one. That moment the nurses handed me my baby. The first time I saw him on an ultrasound. The first time I looked into his beautiful eyes. The moment I saw “PREGNANT” come across the pregnancy test. The moment I looked on his perfect face. I think about and remember the prayers I prayed at each of these moments. I prayed for health. I prayed for his future. I prayed for my health during pregnancy and labor. I prayed for safety. I prayed for sleep. I prayed for and continue to pray for him. I pray for his day. I pray that he loves the Lord. I pray for patience (that one’s for me). I pray to understand boys. I pray that one day I won’t have to clean the bathroom daily. I pray for the right words for me and for him.
But I have never prayed for wisdom.
None of these prayers are bad or foolish. No, they tell of a love so great. They tell a story of my heart for my son. These prayers are beautiful and (mostly) selfless. These prayers are prayers of a mother’s heart. I do not pause and think on the prayer for wisdom because my prayers or my thoughts are bad. I pause and think on praying for wisdom because I have honestly, rarely thought on wisdom and parenting.
Oh I have certainly sought after knowledge. Really, I pretty constantly seek after knowledge. It is a frequent topic of conversation between my husband and I. It is a frequent topic of conversation between my friends and I. It is a frequent prayer request. It is a frequent journal entry. I read books on parenting. I read books on understanding boys. I receive weekly emails reminding me of the stage my toddler is currently in. I love knowledge and I am grateful that it is so readily available.
None of this seeking knowledge is bad. Again, it is a testament to the love I have for my children. It is evidence of the heart I have for them. But. But there is more I should be seeking. There is something bigger, something grander than this knowledge. And it is wisdom.
You see, wisdom and knowledge are so different. They are worlds apart. Literally. Knowledge is gained through life experiences. Knowledge is gleaned through reading, researching, living. Knowledge is learned through people: through our self and others.
Wisdom, however, is not gained from other people but from God. Proverbs 9:10 tells us:
“The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom
and the knowledge of the Holy One is insight.”
Wisdom is learned by fearing the Lord. Fearing Him means knowing Him. Wisdom is gained by drawing closer to Him. Wisdom is gained by spending time in His word. Wisdom is gained by exchanging our thoughts for His thoughts. Wisdom is gained by exchanging our knowledge for His knowledge.
So instead of praying for a new friend. Instead of praying for health. Instead of praying for this current parenting struggle. What if. What if we prayed for wisdom? Because, dear friends, this parenting thing. It is hard. It is intense and important. It is ever changing and world changing. So instead of praying for health, wealth or even our comfort, what if we prayed for wisdom. What if we boldly stepped out of our comfort zones, out of our routines and prayed for the wisdom of the Lord?
It promises to be life changing: both the lives of our children and our own. It promises to be stretching. We will do things differently if we seek more than knowledge. We will live our lives differently. We will lead differently. We will raise up our children differently.
So will you join me in praying for wisdom? Will you join me in stepping out of our comfort zones, out of our search for more and more knowledge? All to seek Him. All to know Him more. Oh dear friend, I love that seeking wisdom reaches past parenting and applies to each of us, in every facet of our lives. I love that seeking wisdom promises to change us. And I love that wisdom promises us more of Him. I pray you will join me in changing the way we live.