Laughter, Mom, & Poop {#WholeMama}

POOP!

Yes, I just started this post by saying poop. Because I’m a (mostly) #boymom. And for some reason the mere sound of this word elicits undercover giggles and hearty chuckles from everyone in the room. Even me. And I’m supposed to be the sensible one in the group.

And I was. Really. I used to be the person that needed each knick-knack (though few) to be in the exact right spot. Not an inch off, exactly where I had them placed before someone so offensively knocked them an inch away. I used to be the person that didn’t allow poop jokes, or even the mention of poop. I was the mom that frowned and cringed when my children (and husband) made inappropriate sounds at the dinner table. I was the proper mom. 

But now, now, I am the one being reminded that we shouldn’t be saying “poop” at the dinner table. Now my children remind me that we can’t make certain jokes. Now I’m the mom who laughs with her children. 

Believe me, I still love rules and order, but I have also learned to smile, to laugh, and to be the teller of the “poop jokes.” Because I have learned that laughter is vitally important. It may not be the lifeblood of the family, but it is invaluable. Laughter is the fighter of the family. I know, that sounds counter-intuitive. Laughter as the warrior? But laughter is powerful, friends. Laughter has the power to break down walls, to unite hearts, and to carry joy. 

There are many days that my seven year old, Man-Child, will get off the bus and quietly get a snack. Any questions about his day are met with grunts or shrugs. Yes, I have already entered the teen years, unfortunately a few years early. But if I tell a joke (preferably an inappropriate one, you know, one about poop) Man-Child laughs. Almost unwillingly. And suddenly, the boundary is removed, or mostly. He begins to share snippets of his day. He opens up. He remembers that we are not just Leader and Follower. He laughs and remembers the relationship we have. He laughs and remembers the love we have. He laughs and he remembers who we are. 

That’s the power of laughter, of silliness. It helps us to remember. And you know how I feel about remembering. Remembering is the key to thankfulness, to gratefulness. When we practice the art of remembering, we are practicing thankfulness, we are removing fear and replacing it with joy.

I am re-reading the Bible, and am in Genesis (yes, I am a little behind). The other day I read the story of Sarah and Abraham, and the birth of Isaac. I always gloss over this story and Sarah’s laughter. But today, I cannot get it out of my head, or my heart.

          And Sarah said, “God has made laughter for me; everyone who hears will laugh over (with) me.” (Genesis 21:6)

Today, as I sit and write this, I smile. I cannot help it. Laughter is part of this wonderful creation. Laughter is part of God’s glory. Laughter is right there, in this moment. Laughter was made for my children and it was made for my friends. Laughter was even made for me; the mom with all the rules.

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And friends, laughter was made for you. I’m going to say that again. Laughter was created for you. It was intentionally designed, intentionally created for each and every one of us. It was made for our relationships, it was made for our hearts. And there is power in it.

It is so easy to overlook laughter. It is easy to shrug off silliness. But when we stop, when we pause and engage in the laughter with those in our lives: from our littles to our spouse, even to our neighbors; we become human. Laughter makes us relatable. Laughter draws us together. Laughter builds community. 

What is laughter to you? How does laughter play it’s role in your life, in your family, and in your community? 

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Today I am joining Esther Emery for the #WholeMama link up. I am excited to be in a community of mama bloggers that are willing to be real, vulnerable and honest. But most of all, that can show the amazing beauty and grace through it all. Each week we will be discussing one word and what it means to each of us. I would love if you joined in too! You can find more information on the original #WholeMama post, here.

Love this link up as much as I do? Here are my other #WholeMama posts:

Power to Flourish

Intentional Quiet

Embracing the Mess of Me

Musings From the Sky: Thoughts on Prayer

Finding the Balance: Space & Community

Seeing Small: Embracing the Ordinary Moments

97 thoughts on “Laughter, Mom, & Poop {#WholeMama}

  1. Yesssss. Laughter is everything. I love laughing and I wish I was better at making people laugh. All my life I just want to be surrounded by people who can make me LOL. Your family looks like so much fun, I can honestly say #relationshipgoals.

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  2. Sometimes being a mom it’s hard to remember that we need to be people sometimes too. A little laughter won’t kill us.

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  3. What an endearing post! I love that verse from Genesis – God’s Word is such a beautiful thing. Thank you for reminding me of the power of laughter today… just when I was getting “too focused” (do you know what I mean?) and needed to lighten up for a minute. Blessings today!

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  4. Ashley, this is hilarious. I like how you said “I was the proper mom.” I feel like that’s how I am a lot of the time with my husband (except “proper wife.”) when he makes his goofy jokes. Slowly but surely, he is breaking me down to just embrace it and laugh!!!

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  5. “Laughter has the power to break down walls, to unite hearts, and to carry joy.” YES – Laughter is so powerful as I experienced this past week. I realized that I don’t laugh enough and I’m going to start doing it more. We’ll be visiting my daughter, Jamie, soon, so I think we’ll be doing a lot of laughing together. πŸ™‚ Enjoyed your post and it isn’t just little boys that like poop jokes. My girls laughed just as much at them . LOL

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  6. Love this Ashley – yes to more laughter and silly and even poop. #boymom Mine are still little and already think farting and fart noises are hilarious.

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  7. I clicked this link BECAUSE it started with the word poop πŸ˜‰ I don’t even have kids but I’m not afraid to admit that my husband and I enjoy a good poop joke now and then. Sometimes it does feel really good to just be silly and let it all go.

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  8. Wow, I love your attitude! I remember when I was around eleven getting a dictionary on my computer (I am blind so this was the first time I’d been able to use a dictionary, because you can’t imagine how thick braille dictionaries are). I also had a synonym dictionary, and would love to look up 20+ synonyms for “poop”.

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  9. Great post, and I loveeeeeeeeee it! So true. You’re so right to just take time to laugh at things. It’s hard sometimes to remember that not everything is a big deal. I will have to try to work on this! Hahaha.

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  10. For whatever reason, I cannot pull off poop jokes with my kids. My husband and I have an inside joke about it, in fact, because on TWO separate occasions, he’s told a poop joke that was met with uproarious laughter from my kids. I then said the same joke/story with myself as the main character (to prove to my husband that he is the only one allowed to tell poop jokes) and instead of laughter, their laughs came to a full stop and my oldest said, “Eww, Mom. Is that true?” NO, DAD JUST SAID THE SAME EXACT THING! OF COURSE IT’S A JOKE! But I love that you’re the kind of mom that recognizes the power of the poop joke with your pre-teen πŸ™‚

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  11. Hi! I’m visiting from The Peony Project. Today was a crazy day! At some point I remember bursting with laughter and the cares of the day mattered less. Thanks for this awesome reminder about the beauty of laughter and not taking everything so seriously!

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  12. Poop jokes are how I break the ice with my almost-7-year-old. Because he’s way introverted and doesn’t always know how to get through the walls, especially if he’s not feeling good. But laughter does indeed bring them down and he is full of things to say, smile, and laugh about. So in a sense, poop is the gateway. haha! Loved your post! Love this #wholemama prompt!

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  17. This is so true! We love to laugh in our household, and I truly believe it’s good for the soul. My favorite thing is now that they’re older, we’re starting to get a few of those family inside jokes. You know, the ones that only make sense to us and make us giggle endlessly? Those are the best. I like sharing that with my husband and kids. It unites us, just like you said. Great post, girl πŸ™‚

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  18. First of all, y’all are adorable! Second of all, I LOVE this. I am sometimes the critical mama, but I work actively to stay light-hearted (and my husband helps). Lately, we’ve made sure to LAUGH a little! It really does help the whole mood of the house.

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  19. I love this! As a first-time mama, I am slowly learning to laugh-off the disasters, the unplanned, and yes, even the poop. Thank you for sharing and the biblical reminders of how valuable laughter can be!

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  20. I love this. I, too, am a boy mom and have learned that poop jokes ensue laughter.

    Can I tell you a secret?

    I’m the one who taught my oldest how to make farting noises with his armpits. Shhhhh! Don’t tell anyone.

    But in all honesty, as moms, if we can’t relate to our sons in some way, all we will get is the shrugs and grunts. And while I can decipher them, I’d rather have conversations than decipher cave man grunts!

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  21. I say a big YES to laughter and silliness… its really is the best medicine – and if its poop that makes you laugh there is nothing wrong with that – we are the same in my house – everything poop and fart related elicits laughter and giggles and I’m not about to stop it.

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  22. Laughter is a necessary family ingredient in our home. Being silly together strengthens our family bond and makes the not so great parts of our days fade into the background. And there are always poop jokes to tell! Love this post, mama!

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